Every time my grandkids asked for money, I gave. No questions. I believed them when they said it was for books, projects, or school trips.

I wanted them to feel supported, and I thought I was helping. But one day, I overheard my daughter-in-law talking on the phone, saying she couldn’t afford a spa day. The very next afternoon, after the kids had come by and I slipped them some bills, I learned she had gone straight to the spa.

My heart sank. The money wasn’t being used for my grandchildren at all—it was being funneled into her luxuries. When I confronted her, she looked me in the eye and said, “It’s none of your concern, but your son and I agreed this was easier than asking you directly.”

That cut deeper than I expected.

It wasn’t just about money—it was about trust, about using my love for the children as a disguise for her own wants. That night, I had a long talk with my son. I explained that generosity works only when paired with honesty.

We agreed the children would still get what they truly needed—but through me directly, not as secret handouts. My daughter-in-law wasn’t pleased, but over time she realized that respect and openness mattered more than shortcuts. And my grandkids?

They still come to me, but now it’s for stories, hugs, and the kind of wisdom no money can buy.