I (64) found love a year ago after being a widow for 22 years. He is a great man, and he just proposed.
He’s 48; my kids think he’s after my money. They told me, “You can marry only if you put your assets in our name or forget about us!”
I refused. That night, I froze when I saw my son parked outside my house, just sitting there in the dark.
At first, I thought maybe he was having second thoughts about how harsh they’d been. I went outside, in my slippers, cardigan wrapped tight. Knocked on the window. He rolled it down but wouldn’t look at me.
I asked if he was okay. He shrugged. “Just thinking.” I told him to come inside, but he shook his head. “I meant what I said,” he murmured. “If you choose him, you’re choosing him over us.” Then he started the car and drove off.
That night, I sat at my kitchen table until 2 a.m., staring at the ring on my finger. My late husband, Alfredo, passed from cancer when he was just 45. I raised three kids alone, worked two jobs until I was 58, and still managed to pay off the house and help them through college. And now, because I finally met someone kind, someone who holds my hand just because—it’s war?
The next morning, I called a lawyer. Not to change my will. To understand exactly where I stood. Turns out, everything I own is in my name. House, savings, pension. No one can make me do anything. Still, I didn’t want a fight. I wanted a family.
I invited all three of my kids—Mateo (36), Salena (34), and Lisette (31)—to brunch the next Sunday. I made their favorite: chilaquiles, fruit salad, warm conchas from the panadería down the street. I even made hot chocolate the old-fashioned way, whisking it in the pot.
They came. But the mood was cold. Mateo wouldn’t sit until I asked him three times. Salena kept her sunglasses on indoors. Lisette, the softest of the three, wouldn’t meet my eyes.
I cleared my throat. “Listen,” I said. “I love you. Nothing will ever change that. But I won’t be bullied into giving up control of what I’ve worked my whole life for. If you have concerns about Rey, talk to me. Don’t threaten me.”
Mateo slammed his fork down. “We did talk. You’re just not listening.”
“He’s 48, Mom. You’re 64. It’s obvious,” Salena added.
“What’s obvious?” I asked.